Ministers Column

MINISTER’S COLUMN October 26, 2018

The season of fall is one of my favorite seasons. I like the crisp cooling air. Change and new possibilities seem to be in the air. I love the rainbow splashes of leaf colors and the sound of dry leaves skittering in the breeze or crackling under my feet. I like how we all begin to wrap ourselves more warmly, creating feelings of being snug or safe. I like how the dark of night comes sooner, bearing mystery and wonder. (In case you are wondering, my other favorite seasons are winter, spring and summer.)

Many autumnal days and rituals, from Rosh Hoshana to Diwali, from Halloween to Solstice, speak endings or transitions like harvests and remembrance. Our holidays at this time of the year feature lights in the deepening dark, at least in the Northern Hemisphere.

One of our regular autumn rituals at Cedars is the Day of the Dead. This is a day to remember and honor our beloved who have died. I am glad to be celebrating this holy day with you. In a congregation like Cedars, which does not have a permanent building, the people and what we do together take on greater significance. Without a church graveyard or a memorial garden, our own memories as they are spoken and shared are what keeps honor alive. In the day of the dead we reweave our connections and affirm the vitality of love despite all endings and loss of the season.

I am glad that my ministry to you will continue for at least nine more months through all the seasons of the year.

Thomas

 

MINISTER’S COLUMN October 9, 2018

Autumn is a season of transition. This part of the world turns from light to dark, from hot to cool, from dry to wet. But all change does not come in one season. I am happy to be sharing it with you here in North Kitsap County and on Bainbridge Island.
The process of transitioning from one Minister, or set of Ministers, to another in a UU church takes years, and the search process takes months.This is because we Unitarian Universalists have discovered that a slow and careful process tends to be more successful than a quick or impulsive one. Our process is still not perfect, but it is the best we have come up with so far to insure equity, compassion, and justice in our searching. Also, grace and mystery, serendipity and mistakes are as much a part of the search process as they are a part of our personal lives.
This autumn, the Cedars Ministerial Search Committee and the Interim Minister of Cedars are both preparing for the heart of the ministerial search process. First, we gather information about ourselves and use that to fill out an online form called a Record. I have completed a Ministerial Record; your Search Committee is working on a Congregational Record for Cedars. In December, ministers like me who are in search can look at Congregational Records and then request to have a link to their record sent to a Search Committee. That is when the work of your search team will become very confidential and much more intense. Through winter, they may have to sort through many Ministerial Records, then schedule and hold brief online interviews, and further sift through all those ministers until they narrow their choices to about three precandidates. Then, in May or April, you will meet one of those as your Ministerial Candidate.
In the meantime, we have many months together as minister and congregation. Let’s make the best of it, worshipping, learning, serving, and loving with one another in this beautiful place and time of great change.
Peace,
Thomas Perchlik

MINISTER’S COLUMN August 24, 2018

August marks a significant shift in Cedars Sunday worship. Keri Schmit, Christina Doherty and Tyler Weaver are each ending their years as Worship Associates.   I enjoyed working with each and will miss them in the pulpit; Christina’s bird calls, Keri’s enthusiasm, Tyler’s warm-hearted spontaneity. I expect them to find other ways to share their gifts and talents with Cedars.

In the months to come, Mike Cox, Emily Mockett, and Jenny Weaver will join with Penny Brewer and Marsha Gladhart and Gregory Cook to lead our worship. The Worship Associates program is one of the most visible and successful instances of co-ministry in this congregation.

Co-ministry is the UU term for a creative partnership between lay and ordained leaders. Often in congregations issues with quality control, ego or simple time management tend to separate the work of the minister from what others do. But when we share responsibilities, balancing creativity with discipline, the result is excellent ministry: open hearts, learning spirits, compassion, justice and love.

Rev. Thomas Perchlik

MINISTER’S COLUMN 7/6/2018

This month it will be difficult to reach me because I am on summer break from July 3 to July 30. I will not read much email and will respond to even less. In an emergency, the President of the Board can reach me by phone, and I might answer urgent phone messages. I will be in Poulsbo and the county for most of these weeks and I look forward to seeing you around. I am very happy to know that Cedars continues to meet every week for inspiration, community, and connection.

It is good to take a break, each day, each week and each year from the regular patterns and demands of any work. Always, people have built holidays and holy days into their lives for health and wholeness. It is essential to meditate, pray, or engage in fun and sacred festivals, but any break is good. Especially if you are a 24-7 worker like a home-maker or care-taker, make sure you have a break from the demands of your life every now and then. But, paid work related vacations were very rare for most of human history, reserved only for the wealthiest people. In the US, according to an online encyclopedia, “only ten percent of wage-earners enjoyed a paid vacation as late as 1930, while 85 percent of white-collar workers” did. Joyfully, because of the rise of unions following the hardship of the Great Depression, the percent of workers with vacation plans increased to ninety-three percent by 1949. That percent has dropped to about seventy-seven in recent years.

I appreciate that I have time to rest, reflect and listen attentively to several episodes of Krista Tippet’s NPR show, On Being.

I hope your month is meaningful and safe.

Yours In Peace,
Thomas

 

MINISTER’S COLUMN 5/30/2018

I am inspired by the generosity and enthusiasm of the people of Cedars as shown in our recent stewardship drive.

Earlier this year, as part of our stewardship drive we asked one another, “What is Your Why?”  The power of this question is that if you know why you are doing something, then you know better what you are doing and your commitment to that “what” will be stronger.  The problem with this question is that you still have to define your “what.”

At the same time as we were running a stewardship drive those of us on the Budget Leadership Team were looking carefully at our finances and developing a budget for next year. They asked many people about what we want to accomplish in the coming year and how much that would cost.  What became clear was, to keep things as good as they are for years to come, part of what we needed to do was raise more money.

Because we knew why this congregation is valuable in our lives and North Kitsap and Bainbridge, we responded very well. Despite some lost pledges, the total amount of money pledged has increased, and those who are working on fundraising have come up with new ideas and new energy.

I am pleased that both the what and the why of Cedars are inspiring generosity and enthusiasm.

Peace,

Thomas

MINISTER’S COLUMN – May 1, 2018

Dear Cedars People, I have returned from my spring vacation, and I thank you for the adventures I experienced beyond the ocean.

I am very happy to be back here to continue to worship, lead, share the religious life and work for justice with you for another year and three months.  Two full years with Cedars is a great gift.  But, if all goes well, after July of 2019, I will be serving a congregation other than Cedars, and you will have another minister to serve you and share the free religious life with you.

One key aspect of being UU is that we are religiously free.  Likewise, each of our congregations is free and autonomous.  Each has joined into an Association, but at the same time each UU church, fellowship, society, or congregation decides what path it will take.  This freedom is a source of joy because it allows us to thoughtfully choose what is best and true for our religious community.  It is a challenge because it means that we must struggle with hard choices, and bear the burden of responsibility, discernment, and truth seeking.  It means we must make choices that are sometimes difficult, conflicted, or controversial.  Our faith is that in the struggle to make decisions together we will hear one another, honor one another and make justice, reason, love, and metta, truly active in our lives and present in the world.

Last April I agreed to be your interim minister.  I have thought long and hard about what that means, weighing feelings and facts.  I have decided that, for the wellbeing of Cedars and of all the UUs to whom we are connected, you should seek and find a great minister who is not me.  I hope you also will help me find another congregation as wonderful as yours.  To follow this path is what I have strongly recommended to your elected leaders, and they have freely chosen to agree.

I look forward to sharing the adventure of search with you all in the year to come, (as Muslims say, inshallah.)

Thomas

MINISTER’S COLUMN – March 30, 2018

In April of 2017, my life and career broke into chaos.  During a few stressful weeks, I decided to become an Interim Minister, I interviewed with several congregations and finally agreed to serve Cedars.  All of you, as a congregation, had already gone through a complicated process and decided to hire an Interim Minister.  As it turned out, we got along with each other better than we had imagined.  Feeling comfortable and happy, even inspired, we have wondered how long this relationship could last.

The first consideration is this; when I agreed to serve you, your President and I signed a contract, saying that I would not seek to be the settled minister of Cedars, at least not for three years.  We did not add the clause, “unless we feel differently.”  The second consideration is that as a democratic congregation you chose to get an Interim.  As a congregation, you have not changed that decision.

So, we are proceeding as planned: you will form a search committee by June 10, decide what kind of minister you want that committee to find, and then trust them to find the best minister possible by April 2019.  I am delighted to be your minister until August of that year, while I seek a ministry that will balance my calling, my personality, my career path and the needs of my family.

Of course, contracts are dissolvable, and you are a free congregation, and I am a free agent, and we all could do whatever we want.  But in actuality, this is not just about us.  We entered into this relationship as part of our UU Settlement System.  Thus, all other UU congregations are part of this agreement. Likewise, I am part of the UU Ministers Association in which I have promised to act in consideration of my colleagues who will at some time use this same Settlement system.  Besides, I have a particular desire to show respect for the wishes and hard work of Keith Kron, our national Settlement Director.  Finally, when I trained to gain certification as an Interim, or “Transitional minister,” I created an expectation by these others that I am here to help you prepare for and go through a formal search for a settled minister that does not include me.

So, in choosing our path forward, we have to be considerate of these relationships and obligations. Here is where the difference between “covenant” and “contract” becomes challenging.  UU people especially must ground our moral authority in our character, in how we keep and repair our covenants, and in the integrity of our words and actions.

Rev. Dennis Reynolds is coming on April 8 to help you move forward in your process.  Bring your hopes, doubts, desires, and troubles about this process to him.  A lot can happen in the year to come.  Many possible paths lie before us.  May we choose wisely, may we serve one another well, may we strengthen UUism, and in this way may we temper the chaos and uncertainty of life.

Peace to You,
Thomas

 

MINISTER’S COLUMN – JANUARY 12, 2018

When people learn I have only been living in the Seattle metro area for a year they often ask, “How are you adjusting to the rain?”  I love the rain.  If I am not cold and wet to the skin, I am happy: with mist in my face, the steady susurrus sound of raindrops, or watching little streams and creeks joyfully dancing down to the rising sea.

What has been the most difficult thing to adjust to is the heavily secular orientation of the larger culture.  Less than a quarter of Washingtonians say they attend weekly religious services.  Certainly, there are many and diverse forms of spirituality and personal belief. But organized religion has less public influence here than in states where I lived for 20 years.

You may know that the names “Unitarian” and “Universalist” were first adopted by people who were dissenters from a dominant, and established, religious culture.  In Saint Louis, many UUs are ex-Catholic, while in other parts of the country a majority of UU people might have an ex-Baptist, or ex-Mainline or even ex-Jewish orientation.

So, what does it mean to be liberally religious in a secular community?  How do I stand against the errors and limits of the “orthodoxy” when it is left leaning, and secular?  How do I ask people to participate in a religious community, when it is odd to do so? Are we heretics, leaders or mere outliers? Why do we worship and serve, care and collect, nurture and love together?   Together, are we a bog, or a mighty river that flows into the sea?

You who are Cedars, along with the larger UU community, are of vital importance to me.   Let me know what this church means to you and why.

Yours in Peace, Thomas

Minister’s Column – End of 2017

 

AS we come to the end of 2017, we find ourselves in the middle of a transition.  Traditional rituals of calendar and culture link us to the past.  But, like Solstice, the rituals all contain the seeds of tomorrow. Thus, the old god Janus, who gave his name to January, has a face looking both forward and back.

You may know that Transition Ministry has five stated “tasks.”  Simplified, these are “looking back, looking around and looking forward.”  The first months of my time here centered on our “History Sunday” in October.  Now, we are looking around at how we do things.  How do we organize and empower our lay leaders?  What is it like having me as a partner in ministry rather than some other minister we remember from the past?  What are our resources now and are we stewarding them well?  Who are our allies in Kitsap County, on Bainbridge Island, and in the wider UU Association?

Of course, we in leadership miss Tammie Tippie, who has been our very capable Office Assistant for several years.  But her leaving, and Sharon Helm’s arrival has allowed us to look at how we do things and perhaps to change.  I am pleased with the team that has stepped up to help produce our newsletter, The Beacon.  In another area, we have a Finance Task Force that is looking at how to accept gifts and how to manage our reserves.  A new team, called the Budget Leadership Team, will re-craft how we develop and manage our budget.  An Operations Team will be managing all our physical assets, at the Cedars Center and beyond.  And yet another team will help us with a Stewardship Campaign.  Meanwhile our continuing teams and committees, like Children’s Religious Education, Social Action, the Justice Network, Pastoral Care, and Worship Associates, as well as the Board, all are looking around at how we get things done.  My job includes supporting and encouraging all these groups.

At this time of transition between calendar years, let us look around and see what wonders we can find.

Minister’s Column December 2017:

 

Diverse human cultures have diverse ideas about sexual ethics.  Back in the 1970s, a UU Congregation held its high-school sexuality course on Friday evenings. The best screen for the projection of visual materials was one of the shades pulled down over a window in the meeting hall.  While they were leading a discussion about the slide show, two Police officers showed up. They were investigating a complaint of seeing pornography on the windows of the church.  That next week, the church had to do a lot of explaining to its neighbors about the nature of a UU religious education program.

American society is now struggling with sexual ethics.  People are challenging hurtful behavior that has long been tolerated and justified.  Through #metoo posts, public denouncements and personal sharing we are discussing the treatment of women and men in our society.  However, the UU approach to ethics is not to be satisfied with lists of approved or disapproved actions.  We want to nurture human goodness, balance justice with compassion and help one another “become the best that we can be.”

That is one reason we offer OWL, “Our Whole Lives,” a comprehensive sexuality curriculum to any who are interested.  The course goes beyond “telling kids about sex” to promoting sexual health, responsibility, self-worth, mutual respect, justice, and inclusivity.  Since 1970 UUs have offered comprehensive sexuality education as part of our religious education.  In the 1990s we joined the United Church of Christ to create OWL which expanded and deepened the ethical dimension of our teaching.  Today this is one of our most important, regular, programs of religious and spiritual education, which we offer to all.

In this and so many other ways, we promote health and respect in the web of relationships that sustain us all.

Peace,

Thomas

 

Minister’s Column 9-20-17:

It is said that we are all like Scheherazade. That bright young woman, told stories every night in order to distract a vengeful king and stay alive. We all share stories to make sense of our lives, to connect with others, and thereby increase our joy and lighten our difficulties. But it matters how you tell a story. Some storytellers lose their narrative amid too many details, or forget to find any point to their telling. Other people will tell things “slant” and leave out very important facts.

 For instance, on the 10th of October the United States honors part of its history. Columbus Day was created, in part, to affirm the contributions of a minority. But in uplifting Italian Americans, this nation deepened our diminishment of Native Americans. Thus, on Sunday, October 8th in Cedars worship, we will celebrate First Nations Sunday. This is not a day to wallow in the sorrows, or strengths, of others but to invoke our own wholeness and truth.
Then on the 15th of October we will hold a special workshop on telling the story of Cedars. Please plan to come for the worship service at 10:00 a.m., in which we will relate the history of Cedars to a larger story. More importantly, I hope every member and friend of this congregation will plan to stay for another couple of hours on that Sunday. We will share a light lunch and then have fun in a further exploration of the meaning of our past. Please plan to join in collective storytelling on Sunday, October 15.

 

 

August 2017

Rev. Thomas Perchlik, our new minister, began his work with Cedars on August 1, 2017. Rev. Perchlik was ordained in early 1991 and has served congregations in Wyoming, Texas, Indiana, Missouri, and has most recently been minister of the Olympia UU Church. He is married to Amy Genova and they are the proud parents of two adult daughters, Emily and Molly.